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rgaynor85
11-27-2006, 01:50 PM
my question is? is a lap dance cheating, not any VIP room or crap like that just a regular lap dance at a strip club. i believe its just harmless fun entertainment and nuttin more but the gf thinks its cheating. theres no double standard here either because i told her to go have fun at a male review but she dont like muscle guys so she dont wanna go.
theres been a few posters but let me add i dont ask this with the ententions or want to go out every weekend and get lap dances, when i say get a lap dance i mean once in a while or on special occasions like a buddy gets me one on my bday somethin like that
also let me add this isnt somthin regular i wanna be doin, i just turned 21 and i just really wanna get my 1st one and expieriance it. for those of who would say why do i want to.
Tru2Chevy
11-27-2006, 01:53 PM
Eh...I guess it depends on your views (or in this case, your GF's). Personally, I don't see why someone with a girl they care about should be out getting a lap dance in the first place.....but that's just me.
- Justin
foff667
11-27-2006, 01:57 PM
if you go home to your wife/girlfriend without banging the stripper its not cheating.
qwikz28
11-27-2006, 02:29 PM
if you even question it, its not good. cheating, i dont know about that but its a relative question. but in any event, its not right
Rob WS6
11-27-2006, 02:34 PM
I dont think its cheating... as long as your hands are at your side, mouth closed, and pants zipped, its not cheating. But personally, I think its a waste of time and money... Ive got no interest in having some skank I dont know dance on my lap. :lol:
rgaynor85
11-27-2006, 02:42 PM
im not questioning it i believe 100% its not im just trying to find out if my thinking is wrong in most others eyes.
and for the most part its just that i wanna expeiriance it sense ive never had one it might be a lame waste of money andi wont bother ever again
Tru2Chevy
11-27-2006, 02:43 PM
Why don't you get your girlfriend to give you one then?
- Justin
Knipps
11-27-2006, 02:46 PM
Why don't you get your girlfriend to give you one then?
- Justin
+1.
Rob WS6
11-27-2006, 02:51 PM
Maybe its time to start looking for a new GF... one who can move her hips like theres no tomorrow... youll never even want to leave the house let alone go get a lap dance! :D
rgaynor85
11-27-2006, 03:05 PM
Maybe its time to start looking for a new GF... one who can move her hips like theres no tomorrow... youll never even want to leave the house let alone go get a lap dance! :D
lol na i love her wouldnt wanna do that.
oh and on the have her give me one note,someone said this on another forum which was another way i think of it and have been brought up to think of it. its like a right of pasage
NJSPEEDER
11-27-2006, 03:09 PM
it is jsut fun.
besides, there is no sex in the champagne room.
Tru2Chevy
11-27-2006, 03:12 PM
If you wanna think of it as a right of passage into manhood or whatever, then go get one and hopefully you'll think it's worth the money you spend. But don't say you weren't warned when your girl flips out on you, since you already know that she doesn't want you to do it.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to get up on a high horse and tell you that you are a bad person or anything.....I'm just saying.
- Justin
bad64chevelle
11-27-2006, 03:31 PM
Eh...I guess it depends on your views (or in this case, your GF's). Personally, I don't see why someone with a girl they care about should be out getting a lap dance in the first place.....but that's just me.
- Justin
:werd:
Firebird67dude
11-27-2006, 03:49 PM
:stupid: I agree. Why pay for a lap dance when it should be somewhat easy to get ur girl to give you one for free.
bitchincamaro
11-27-2006, 04:09 PM
whats the matter with your girlfriend, doesnt she trust you? nothing happens in the strip joint,(depending on where your at), but its harmless fun. bring her to the club and get her a dance. my buddy once brought his g/f at the time, now his wife, but the stripper paid more attention to her then she did my buddy, and she was cool about it and actually saw what was going on.
i personally rather spend my money on something else. 20 bucks will buy me lunch for a week, but i have experienced a few lappers and i do recommend one just to say you've had one.
last time i was at a nudie bar, it was for my buddies bachelor party, i spent the 10 bucks to get in, and that was it. we brought our own beer so i didnt need a thing. if you guys are looking for a good one in A.C. go to bare exposure.
79CamaroDiva
11-27-2006, 07:17 PM
from a females point of view:
no, i don't think its cheating, but i also don't think its very respectful. should she get upset? im not sure, but no one can tell her what she thinks. she's already told you she doesn't approve of it, but you are your own man. if you were out at a bachelor party or guys night out, whatever... what goes on during those stays between those walls, but don't go out and get one just because you think you should.
who cares? go nail some chick u dont know you'll feel better
bad64chevelle
11-27-2006, 07:24 PM
who cares? go nail some chick u dont know you'll feel better
Theres the jerk0ff j0n we all know! I agree with Melissa that Its kinda not respecting her wishes, and that if she beats the **** out of you because you went ahead and did it, its all on you. Gotta remember, if she gets really pissed, she may not be giving you any lapdances for a while either...
1_Hot_SOM_WS6
11-27-2006, 07:55 PM
from a females point of view:
no, i don't think its cheating, but i also don't think its very respectful. should she get upset? im not sure, but no one can tell her what she thinks. she's already told you she doesn't approve of it, but you are your own man. if you were out at a bachelor party or guys night out, whatever... what goes on during those stays between those walls, but don't go out and get one just because you think you should.
I agree!! Thats just asking for trouble. Well if u really like your grl and ur happy with her there should be no reason for u to go to some strip club to look at other grls or get a lap dance.
jimmyboy8301
11-27-2006, 08:00 PM
i look at it as, if it's something i'd get mad at if she did. but you said you wouldn't care so lol. if it's only on special occassions and nothing more then i guess it's not a big deal but if she is uncomfortable you have to take that into consideration/
i quote i once heard comes to mind "its easier to beg for forgiveness then ask for permisson" :lol:
BonzoHansen
11-27-2006, 10:29 PM
1. Don't ask, don't tell.
2. More than 1 is usually a waste of $20. Paying to be teased.
Savage_Messiah
11-28-2006, 10:14 AM
+1 for have her give you one
Squirrel
11-28-2006, 10:52 AM
why would she need to know you got one in the first place?....i guess im just missin out on that part...
tell her youre going out with the boys, go to the strip club, just dont come back smelling like hooker snatch
baddest434
11-28-2006, 01:29 PM
what happens at strip clubs stays at strip clubs:mrgreen:
and no it isn't cheating. and if she still gets pissed off then make her ass give you a lap dance and then some!
90FormulaWS6
11-28-2006, 01:46 PM
dude just ****in go to the strip club and have some ****in rando slam pig rub up on your **** for a while... then go home and slam your girlfriend... end of story
BonzoHansen
11-28-2006, 02:22 PM
what happens at strip clubs stays at strip clubs:mrgreen: Just watch out for glitter & stripper stink.
baddest434
11-28-2006, 02:30 PM
what happens at strip clubs stays at strip clubs:mrgreen: Just watch out for glitter & stripper stink.
stripper stink FTMFW :lol:
Just watch out for glitter & stripper stink.
stripper stink FTMFW :lol:
dirty old man :lol:
I've never been to a strip club, but I would not consider getting a lap dance cheating. If she's really against the whole thing, thats your call. if it just seems like she's hesitant about the whole situation, reassure her that you lover her and you'll be back around 3 am :lol:
Savage_Messiah
12-01-2006, 02:01 AM
I've never been to a strip club
:confused: :orlyflag:
BonzoHansen
12-01-2006, 06:55 AM
I've never been to a strip club....:We could probably fix that, you know, if we did that kind of thing, which of course we don't...
...so when? :-P
wow ian whats wrong with u?
armymp1983
12-01-2006, 05:00 PM
Not cheating. Tell her to chill. Epecially if you trust her enough to go see male strippers. Mutual respect my friend!!!8-)
wow ian whats wrong with u?
:lol:
I just never got around to it?
ar0ck
12-01-2006, 10:42 PM
If you have to question it somethings wrong. If she trusts you she shouldn't need to worry about you.
qwikz28
12-01-2006, 10:55 PM
If you have to question it somethings wrong. If she trusts you she shouldn't need to worry about you.
thats what i said earlier in the thread. the problem is with you if you need to go to another girl for happiness.
no one ever said he was unhappy with his girlfriend. he just said he wanted a lap dance because he's never had one. last time I checked, no one ever went to jail for going to a strip club and getting a lap dance.
again, its entirely his call, but if he has never had one, he might as well get one. its not cheating, he's still gonna go home to the same girl he did the night before, I dont see a problem with it.
jims69camaro
12-04-2006, 09:40 AM
no one ever said he was unhappy with his girlfriend. he just said he wanted a lap dance because he's never had one. last time I checked, no one ever went to jail for going to a strip club and getting a lap dance.
again, its entirely his call, but if he has never had one, he might as well get one. its not cheating, he's still gonna go home to the same girl he did the night before, I dont see a problem with it.
no, no one said he was unhappy with her, but an inference was drawn... if he has to see someone else take their clothes off, then there must be something wrong with his relationship with the current woman. or, more specifically, knowing it's something that she is against, and wanting to do it anyway, just because he has never done it before, then there is a problem in the relationship (moreso with him than the relationship, i would think). or, just the fact that he is asking if this is something the majority of people think is ok so he can justify it in his own mind, should he go, then there are underlying problems.
and just because it is not against the law doesn't mean it's not morally or ethically wrong. there are many things that are not against the law but you don't do them because of morals or ethics, whether they be personal or business, etc.
obviously, if he wants the relationship to work then it's not just "his call". he needs to take her feelings into account, and not just how much **** he is going to catch when she finds out he went against her wishes. it's like telling someone that it would hurt you if they went and did a particular something, and then without another thought you go and do that particular something. you know it's going to hurt them, but you do it anyway?
I dont see what the big deal is, but then again I've never been to a strip club so I'm probably not the best person to ask :lol:
Jim, you're right that you shouldn't have to go to a strip club if you're in a relationship, but its obvious that he wants to go.
ShitOnWheels
12-04-2006, 12:43 PM
no one ever said he was unhappy with his girlfriend. he just said he wanted a lap dance because he's never had one. last time I checked, no one ever went to jail for going to a strip club and getting a lap dance.
again, its entirely his call, but if he has never had one, he might as well get one. its not cheating, he's still gonna go home to the same girl he did the night before, I dont see a problem with it.
no, no one said he was unhappy with her, but an inference was drawn... if he has to see someone else take their clothes off, then there must be something wrong with his relationship with the current woman. or, more specifically, knowing it's something that she is against, and wanting to do it anyway, just because he has never done it before, then there is a problem in the relationship (moreso with him than the relationship, i would think). or, just the fact that he is asking if this is something the majority of people think is ok so he can justify it in his own mind, should he go, then there are underlying problems.
and just because it is not against the law doesn't mean it's not morally or ethically wrong. there are many things that are not against the law but you don't do them because of morals or ethics, whether they be personal or business, etc.
obviously, if he wants the relationship to work then it's not just "his call". he needs to take her feelings into account, and not just how much **** he is going to catch when she finds out he went against her wishes. it's like telling someone that it would hurt you if they went and did a particular something, and then without another thought you go and do that particular something. you know it's going to hurt them, but you do it anyway?
Eh, I have to disagree. I wouldn't mind going to a male review club because I have yet to do it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with my relationship, we are very much happy, very much engaged, very much in love etc etc. It's debateable whether there is anything wrong with me, but it has nothing to do with this topic!
I see it the same as some others have said..."pants zipped, hands off, and nothing else happens", then it's not cheating.
Yes, he must take into account her wishes, and decide whether it's worth it in the end to go against them (is the reward greater than the risk of losing her?), but just because he's asking, doesn't mean there is something wrong with the relationship or him. It just means he wants to do something, found out his girl disapproves of the situation, and is asking if others feel the same way. Then he can go back and continue having a discussion, having some evidence to back him up. Rather than him say "But EVERYONE else does it" without any evidence, he can say "Look, a few of my buddies agree with me...some also agree with you. let's discuss it and see what can come of it." IF she still says no, he's best to heed her wishes.
Batman
12-05-2006, 05:55 AM
:popcorn:
Little G
12-11-2006, 05:28 PM
I propose a NJFBOA sponsored strip club trip to break some of these strip club cherries we have here.
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misterjuice
12-12-2006, 01:37 PM
Why not get your girlfriend to go to the strip club with you,....and get a lapdance together?? That is both hot, and entertaining. :)
Why not get your girlfriend to go to the strip club with you,....and get a lapdance together?? That is both hot, and entertaining. :)
ive done it but not with a gf. its ok. the strippers kinda avoided us at first :lol:
Frosty
12-12-2006, 08:53 PM
I've never been to a strip club. It's a waste of $$. Let's spend crazy money on a skank whore that you can't touch. Sounds like fun to me..sign me up.
With that said...do I think it's cheating? Nope. However, IMO, it's ****** and disrespectful to go to a strip joint while in a relationship, ESPECIALLY if you supposedly love your girl.
You have to ask yourself this question. What's more important? A lap dance that amounts to nothing or the trust and love of your girl? To me it's a no brainer.
Good luck :)
ryanfx
12-12-2006, 09:58 PM
I can just picture you dorks at a strip club for your first time.
NJFBOAian: So- have I mentioned I drive an fbody?
Stripper: *stares blankly*
Knipps
12-12-2006, 10:16 PM
I can just picture you dorks at a strip club for your first time.
NJFBOAian: So- have I mentioned I drive an fbody?
Stripper: *stares blankly*
:rofl: you forgot the part where they try to impress her by telling her about the size of their cam shaft
Little G
12-13-2006, 12:57 AM
I've never been to a strip club. It's a waste of $$. Let's spend crazy money on a skank whore that you can't touch. Sounds like fun to me..sign me up.
If you can't touch, you're at the wrong strip club.
g
Frosty
12-13-2006, 08:26 PM
I've never been to a strip club. It's a waste of $$. Let's spend crazy money on a skank whore that you can't touch. Sounds like fun to me..sign me up.
If you can't touch, you're at the wrong strip club.
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Ok fine. Let's get all hot and can't **** her and get off. What's the point?
Like I said I've never been to one and never plan on it....I don't need to hit up those types of places to stimulate me, lol.
DieselKickYoAss4Sure
12-21-2006, 11:29 AM
Not cheating dont tell her and dont come home smelling like hooker snatch! or just dotn go!
camarogirl57
12-22-2006, 09:20 AM
I agree with True2chevy. Why don't you let your girlfriend lose her inhibitions and give you one? I, for one, cannot believe all the wasted time and $$ that goes into lap dances, etc. - and nothing to show for it!-
Personally, I don't feel that it is cheating; as long as you are not obsessed with it. Usually just harmless fun.
12secondv6
12-22-2006, 12:40 PM
:rofl: Funny thread.
Is it cheating.... no.
Just don't take it further than a lap dance.
It cracks me up that people actually think it is cheating
Frosty
12-22-2006, 12:53 PM
Is it worth pissing off the person you love? **** no.
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