The worlds a crappy place...

[WayFast84]

This all starts back to november, me and my girlfriend are on a forced break up. She starts spiraling downward, and at 16 1/2 she becomes an alky.. She trys to get booze any way she can, and she got date raped two times, The second time it happened I swear I flip out, and try to do everything I can, she refuses the help, I learned that the reason she drinks in the first place is because its the only way she felt better :-? I figure, screw forced break up and if its gonna stop her from all this stuff, its worth it so i went back out with her, and In like a month we broke up like 12 times cause of her being all weird.. now shes hanging out with the dirt bags that I used to hang out with when I was a dirt bag and I warned her of what was to come, It finally came, and here I am upset over it, As Im talking to my freinds about this, her cousin blurts out, that when she was raped she didnt report it, and understands why my ex didnt... WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? Whats wrong with me? How do I get over this girl!?

plz help nothing is working.

[98tadriver]

shes a dumb bitch and youre a cool dude. leave her POS ass and f*ckin move on bro. people dont need this stupid drama *********, especially a youngster like yourself. do friends with benefits, you get what you want, (we all know what we want from a girl) and you dont have to worry about the BS.

[Savage_Messiah]

Over the past few days I've been finding myself learning the same lesson you gotta learn.... she's obviously NOT the person you cared about. You've tried to help, and she just refused it? Same here. I ain't getting into my whole sob story but you gotta move on. Not saying it's easy, not saying it's anywhere NEAR easy, but rarely is anything that's worth it something easy.

[jola]

Rape is really traumatic and you never know how someone will react. She may have just wanted to repress it. If she is refusing your help their isn't much you can do, but I can relate to you still wanting to help and caring about her, even if she isn't the same person. All I can say is don't let that embitter you but at the same time, don't let it dig into you and get you down.

[Ian]

burn your bridges and dont look back. you offered help and she didnt want it. no use getting yourself all worked up over something you cant control.

[NJSPEEDER]

if you are her friend, do whatever you can to help her. i wouldn't suggesst dating someone with problems like that, but ignoring her isn't a solution either.
you can never force people to admit to or correct addictions, that is something they have to come to in their own time. wht you can do to help them and try to accelerate the process of her realizing she needs and accepting help is to stay invovled and be around to offer alternate things to do instead of hanging with the scum bags and boozin.
don't make her problems the biggest priority in your life, but be aware that you can help in the litle ways that help lead people back from the brink of their own destruction.
i have been there with friends before, it is tough, but you can't let it consume you. the greatest lesson you can take from it at your age is that drinking is not a big deal, excessive drinking is.

[shane27]

girls are dumb. they dont know what they want. the best way to get over a girl is find another one. you may think you wont find someone as good as her or whatever...but your wrong.

plenty o' fish in the sea mate.

[Blacdout96]

Yeah, I was put into that same hole. My one ex, who was the first I really loved, we were great but she became wierd, and started hanging out wiht some trash. She never smoked pot before but she for soem reason decided to one day with these people. well a few months downt he line, she got drunk and fooledaroudn with my bestfriend, and then a couple weeks later slept wiht some guy, some football star of her school. I took her back and in the middle ofthe summer she slept wiht my best friend whom she fooled around with back in january. well she went off to college and has become the village whore. shes slept with more then half ofa fraternity in her college, and gets drunk every night, why i dont know but it hurt so much to hear what she had become, this innocent girl turned into a whore. well last month i lost another person who i cared about alot. She says she doesnt know what she wants to do with her life so decides to just walk away from me so she could go out party, adn see other guys, I hate love, it hurts so much. dude Ive been in your shoes a few times, and it will hurt, but the bestthing you can do is get together with your friends, and try to havea good time. it helped me so much thru this last break up, I mean god the first break up that I had when I lost the one who went to college, it took me almost 9 months to get over her because I chose to stay seldom to myself instead of being around others, its hard.

[DieselKickYoAss4Sure]

damn what are these kids getting themselves into theses days!

[V]

the right girl wont cause you any problems, its as simple as that. ive given up on a few and those that know me know the crap i put up with. But you know what... I"M doing fine. thats the only one who matters, especially when you are young. Even being friends with a person who couldnt care less doesnt work. Theres a point where you just have to turn and walk away, dont let them drag you down or mess with your head, its rough but no matter what, you'll live to see another day regardless of drama the day before.

[Blacdout96]

the right girl wont cause you any problems, its as simple as that. ive given up on a few and those that know me know the crap i put up with. But you know what... I"M doing fine. thats the only one who matters, especially when you are young. Even being friends with a person who couldnt care less doesnt work. Theres a point where you just have to turn and walk away, dont let them drag you down or mess with your head, its rough but no matter what, you'll live to see another day regardless of drama the day before.

well spoken words bro

[Savage_Messiah]

Jeff, we kinda have more in common than we realized

[The Fixer]

the right girl wont cause you any problems, its as simple as that.
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Theres a point where you just have to turn and walk away, dont let them drag you down or mess with your head, its rough but no matter what, you'll live to see another day regardless of drama the day before.

AMEN!!! Back in 1999, the girl I had been dating for 6 years, and planning to get engaged to, tells me at my brother's wedding that we need to take some time off. Turns out she was cheating on me with her best friend's older sister's husband! She was 22, he was 37! I went into massive depression, lost a bunch of weight, but my good friends pulled me through it and just six months after that whole disaster I met my wife. That breakup wound up being the best thing that ever happened to me. Matt, just stay strong, put her in the past, and you will pull right through this! Keep yer chin up!

[98tadriver]

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust

[Blacdout96]

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust

Cherry or blueberry cobbler with whipped cream ftw. back to the topic lol

[Lt1_8U]

just keep moving on with your life, keep yourself occupied with things like your car or hanging out friends. The more things you do, the less you will think about her..

[Blacdout96]

The thing that got me thru my stuff the most, and also made me not think about it the most, was workign on the camaro, thus y I got all that stuff done to my car, I just kept buying crap for it to keep my mind occupied. It was like crack at one point and time, I needed my fix and waited at the door for the UPS/FedEx guy to get here wiht my stuff lol.

[WayFast84]

I havent thought about it since I made this post till now, But I cant just go chill with my friends, all of my friends are where her friends before they even met me. I stated that she was telling me she was going to do somethings with a dirtbag, well that dirtbag was my friend till I went to high school, then i met this chick and all her friends, I can think of 2 people im cool with and can hang out with that arent her friend.

all this crap makes me tired, Im goin to bed. thanks for the help

[WildBillyT]

Dump the chick and concentrate on the car. Don't look back. Surround yourself with people that make you a better person, not people that will hold you back. Offer support if you have to but distance yourself.

[BonzoHansen]

When you get a bit older, you'll be amazed at how many of the people you grew up with fall off your radar.

[Blacdout96]

I havent thought about it since I made this post till now, But I cant just go chill with my friends, all of my friends are where her friends before they even met me. I stated that she was telling me she was going to do somethings with a dirtbag, well that dirtbag was my friend till I went to high school, then i met this chick and all her friends, I can think of 2 people im cool with and can hang out with that arent her friend.

all this crap makes me tired, Im goin to bed. thanks for the help

Same here, I lost almost all of my friends from my first ex. Its sad to see that peopel you once trusted and did stuff for can easy push you away. I spent soo much time and money on my friends, and they shunned me away after we broke up like I was a bad guy. Good guys always finish last, remember that. The worst kind of relationsip you can get into is one that all your friends know, cause things can go wrong, real quick, but its hard for me to pick up girls outside of my friends, hewll all the girls ive gone out wiht since i got out of highschool was thru friends so, its hard for me, but I hear ya man, as much as you dont want to, just try to go out, youll feel better when you do, trust me.

[Knipps]

When you get a bit older, you'll be amazed at how many of the people you grew up with fall off your radar.

:nod: Quoted for truth.

[GP99GT]

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust

you are not me and never will be


but yeah dude...dont waste your time on her. find another girl, youll get over it shortly.

[misterjuice]

have a stroke!!

[Blacdout96]

When you get a bit older, you'll be amazed at how many of the people you grew up with fall off your radar.

Yup, I hate to accept that fact, but it does happen.

[WayFast84]

Now she kinda wont leave me alone :(

[GP99GT]

ignore her dude. shes f***ing with your head

[Blacdout96]

Lemme guess shes randomly txting/calling you seeing whats up, dont talk to her, cause she will f*** with you, my ex would call or txt me up to tell me about this guy she was with, or how this guy was good in bed, im not saying shell say that, but if they know your upset and easy to get upset, they'll try.

[Blacdout96]

not to get off topic, but wayfast, I just looked at your cardomain. your firebird used to have white walls and wire rims!! dude, what a complete turn around for that car, nice work bro.

[Jared1970Chevelle]

bro cut your loses while your ahead.... she will do nuthing but bring you down, take your money, and get you arrested for some bs..... the only advice that i can give is cut all loses while your ahead... and its not meant to be.... you tried to help and nothing was a result....so your a good guy for doing what you tried to do so far....

seen alot of this stuff...

[camaroracer1992]

i just got out of a long relationship where all of a sudden my chick started acting all goofy and messed up..... im 27 and my advice is FORGET it and let it go and move on. I immerse myself hanging out with friends, working on the car, etc. youll be amazed at how much car **** you can get done when theres no woman with head issues in your life!!

[Blacdout96]

i just got out of a long relationship where all of a sudden my chick started acting all goofy and messed up..... im 27 and my advice is FORGET it and let it go and move on. I immerse myself hanging out with friends, working on the car, etc. youll be amazed at how much car **** you can get done when theres no woman with head issues in your life!!

not to mention how much more money is in your pocket lol

[Brando56894]

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust

alright matt :rollseye:

[SpeedMetalT/A]

I've seen girls I care about turn into scumbags like that too and you try to help and it just doesn't work.The problem is you can only help someone if they truly want to change if they've decided to be a scum bag thats what there gonna do.It really sucks but there's a point where you have to realize there's nothing you can do and move on.

[bubba428]

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust

DON"T MAKE ME DO IT!!!!!!!! I got the image link saved.....anyway...just Ignore her dude shes playing games with you...just let her go

[brp88gta]

wayfast, been there before too. worst thing to do is have her texting you all the time. was there before, she just "wanted to be friends" so i would still talk to her. she just messed with me and all it did was make the healing process longer. towards the end of me talking to her, the only time she would call me is when she needed something done on her car. screw it man, if they see that you still care about them after they leave, they will just mess with you more. its hard, but try to take a break from talking to her at all to get your head strait. and we have all been there before. everyone goes through this stuff. its not fun but its part of life

[qwikz28]

lead by example. don't appear to be condescending, be a friend. give advice. don't let her go astray. there is a saying, "once a good girl's gone bad, she's gone forever" this isn't to be taken literally of course, but its harder for girls to regain innocence and a reputation than a dude. stay with her dude, and don't listen to those careless jerks that tell you to walk away. true friends would never do that

[WayFast84]

Well, she wouldnt leave me alone, and she was convinced that i should give her a chance, I said fine, when ever your ready, then i said GTG, logged off, I came back on 2 or 3 hours later and blocked all her aim's and phone numbers. I realized its the time to get over it, and I cant talk to her, while getting over it.

[Blacdout96]

Yeah man, way to go, your a hella stronger then I was, I catered to my first ex's every needs until I finally met my just became ex lol, thats the best route.

[cam70nfs]

its ok to still want to help her but as girlfriend material i would look elswhere.
crazy is as crazy does

[chemicalstylez]

Your young bro, this is just the start of girls screwing you over throughout life lol. Wait till after high school until you try and find a serious girlfriend. The high school years are full of cheating/stupid broads, so don't hang your head on it. Over time it'll come eventually, my current girlfriend was a close friend for 3 years before i realized something so good was right under my nose.

[WayFast84]

Thanks for the input guys! How ever the tables have turned, I was being all right and moving on, When her cousin aimed me and told me, that my ex "NEEDED" to talk. I talked to her for a bit, and my ex said she was wrong and that she realized i was nicer, kinder and better then any one else. I said I was moving on and she said i shouldn't, she wants to go out now, and Idk what to do, she says she loves me, but i kinda love her, I just don't truly know because of all the situations shes put me in.

[BonzoHansen]

...the skeptical person might think she is saying what she thinks you want to hear...

[V]

turn and walk away. its rough but too little too late.

I turned my back on the last girl i was dating, it wasnt easy. Now i have met an awesome girl(with the same name, go figure) However, i dont think i can let it happen or let it go anywhere because the timing now for me is just bad since i'l be leaving in a month and most likely never living in NJ again.

[BonzoHansen]

...with the same name....Did you hold that against here, even briefly? For 2 months I hated all women with the same name as an ex of mine. LOL.

[V]

Did you hold that against here, even briefly? For 2 months I hated all women with the same name as an ex of mine. LOL.

well they came to one gathering i had, we all started playing beer pong, i threw a ball at her sisters face and then later in the night i asked them their names, when she said it, i said "i hate that name". Now several days later, when i think of the name, i think of her, not the old one, so its all good now. lol

[Lt1_8U]

screw her dude, she made you feel like crap now she "needs" you, this sounds like she needs a rebound guy..she is happy then she feels like crap and starts to feel she needs someone so she jumps to her comfort zone, a.k.a you. just keep walking away

[Lt1_8U]

well they came to one gathering i had, we all started playing beer pong, i threw a ball at her sisters face and then later in the night i asked them their names, when she said it, i said "i hate that name". Now several days later, when i think of the name, i think of her, not the old one, so its all good now. lol

lol, i went out with some chick named kayla and when we broke up i just hated her because she treated me like a ***** and every day when i took the bus to school i had to pass a street named "Kay la". it always pissed me off in the morning then i finally got over it:rofl:

[12secondv6]

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust


FTMFW!!!!

[Blacdout96]

Did you hold that against here, even briefly? For 2 months I hated all women with the same name as an ex of mine. LOL.

X2. Doris was her name.

[AliWantsNss]

OMG you were born in the 90s? How old are you? You are wayyyyyy too young for this kind of drama. You arent even old enough to drive, stop stressing over girls!

[Mike]

hes 16

and matt, you guys dont love each other

[Firebird67dude]

I just finaly read this, only wayfast post not anything else. Honestly dude, her drinking is her problem not yours. I found the onloy way ppl. learn is to have them learn the hard way. I know you don't want anything bad to happen to her but thats not your problem.

[Tru2Chevy]

hes 16

Nope, 15. He'll be 16 next month.

- Justin

[AliWantsNss]

Nope, 15. He'll be 16 next month.

- Justin

Yup, definantly more to life than wasting time on girls at that age.

[WayFast84]

ughh, today she had all of her friends and mine harrassing me. I finally gave in and she complains that the kid I warned her about stole her money, and said she deserved to get raped, and that she should screw the whole gas station..

I tried to talk to her about it and then she flipped at me, and at this point Im going to change everything to get away from it.

Hllywd84Firebird

Or

fistfullofnorris

wich screen name? lol

[Knipps]

how about you be original and not rip off other ppl? kthx

[Mike]

dont change your stuff, just ignore her. its better she knows your there and not talking to her

[Blacdout96]

dont change your stuff, just ignore her. its better she knows your there and not talking to her

X2.

[jims69camaro]

:stupid:

[WayFast84]

how about you be original and not rip off other ppl? kthx

ok mr chevelle454..


It was a joke, Im not gonna change my stuff,

At this point im pretty sure this chick ruined my entire highschool social life...

ohh well at least freshmen year was good. :lol:

[Knipps]

i didn't steal that from anyone?

[trashman01]

matt i kno what ur going thru, happened right now with my current ex. found out she cheated on me so i dumped her like a novice on a bike. went to hang out with my buddies down at the local spot where i hadnt been since we were dating(1 year) met a new girl right off the bat. tell u what man, its hell alot better now, not to mention shes all pissed at me, just dont talk to her, or her friends. let them talk **** man cuz its just words it holds no value

[Savage_Messiah]

ughh, today she had all of her friends and mine harrassing me. I finally gave in and she complains that the kid I warned her about stole her money, and said she deserved to get raped, and that she should screw the whole gas station..

I tried to talk to her about it and then she flipped at me, and at this point Im going to change everything to get away from it.

Hllywd84Firebird

Or

fistfullofnorris

wich screen name? lol


How old is she again?

Dude just man up, cockslap her, give her a good ol' donkey punch or 3, and nail her sister.

[trashman01]

"dodge the father, ram the daughter"

[Ian]

like I said, burn your bridges and dont look back.

[Savage_Messiah]

like I said, burn your bridges and dont look back.

Do what I said first though :lol:

[WayFast84]

I wont do her twin, shes a dirty hippy, but id do the oldest..

but they all hate me, Dad, mom, sisters...

I'm trying to burn the bridge but I'm trying to be cool with her friends at the same time..

god damn girls..