girls /women

[JohnG]

a question for those of you fellas that have a girlfriend / wife : how did you meet ?

as a car nut, I'm having a rough time meeting one that will put up with me talking / thinking about cars most of the time...
:helmet:

[transamkid]

i just broke up with my gf, she didnt like to hang with me and my car buddies. went out with her for a year

[ryanfx]

as a general rule of thumb:

Imagine that whenever your GF is with her friends, she instantly starts talking about purses. And whenever she sees a nice purse she talks about it, or whenever she hears anything remotely related to purses, she has to give her opinion on it.

That's what cars are to them. Either you stop talking about them, of find one of those fabled women who actually enjoy them.

p.s if you DO find a woman who is interested in cars.. she's most likely a spy. Proceed with extreme caution.

[ar0ck]

as a car nut, I'm having a rough time meeting one that will put up with me talking / thinking about cars most of the time...
:helmet:

All i have to say is good luck with that :lol:

[procamaroz28]

i agree w/ alex

[Tru2Chevy]

My wife knows that I had the Camaro before we started dating :razz:








Kidding aside, she's great. Not only does she put up with all the talking about cars that I do, but she puts up with all the stuff that I run around and do with/for this site. I got lucky though - she's into the cars too.

- Justin

[maroman88]

mine has taken an intrest in cars.... or atleast shes good at pretending.

also we met in middle school ohhhhh like 10 years ago, starting going out feb 03, jr year of HS

[BonzoHansen]

My wife knows that I had the Camaro before we started dating :razz:








Kidding aside, she's great. Not only does she put up with all the talking about cars that I do, but she puts up with all the stuff that I run around and do with/for this site. I got lucky though - she's into the cars too.

- Justin

Maybe we can get her into your car one day.... :twisted:

[WildBillyT]

I met her in college.

The purse scenario is a good match. I try to keep the car talk to a minimum. It's actually grown on her a bit, she suggests that we go to cruise nights in the summer.

[mudjnky]

I worked with my mother in law and she set us up on a blind date. We started riding quads, moved into dirt bikes, then off road trucks, now cars. Our 68 Camaro is technically hers. Her sister has a 72 Challenger. Car Girls are out there, be patient, you'll find one!

[Untamed]

I could probably write a book on "Compromise" when it comes to marriage and hobbies.

The key, as with all things in life, is moderation - or finding someone who enjoys the same things that you do, without becoming obsessed with it. If she can tolerate your hobbies, and you spend enough time with her doing other things, you'll work out just fine. Likewise, if you both enjoy cars, but have other interests together (and separate) you'll also do fine. You need time apart, doing other things, that you can share later.

Meeting women and getting to know them is a whole different subject. Just remember that you need to enjoy more things than just cars. Sometimes dating is a good chance to try new things - nothing makes a woman smile more than giving her the chance to teach you something new. Walk in her world for a date or two and decide if you have enough interest in her and what she likes, to continue. If all you like and want is to hang out with cars and the people who own them, then your prospects for meeting other women with the same mindset, is diminished.

I complain a lot about marriage, because I'm always compromising. But having said that, married life really isn't that bad as long as you can live in her world as much as you want her in yours.

[Featherburner]

They're out there. I found one. She is very supportive of my hobby. She is the reason I have the 68 convertible. In passing, I mentioned my boss had a friend that was selling a firebird convertible. She said, "we should go look at it". Well, we came home with it. The thing I don't understand is why she is into cars. :shrug: Her family never had anything special. Her personal favorite is a 1956 Chevy. Someday one will have to be added to the stable.

[qwikz28]

I could probably write a book on "Compromise" when it comes to marriage and hobbies.

The key, as with all things in life, is moderation - or finding someone who enjoys the same things that you do, without becoming obsessed with it. If she can tolerate your hobbies, and you spend enough time with her doing other things, you'll work out just fine. Likewise, if you both enjoy cars, but have other interests together (and separate) you'll also do fine. You need time apart, doing other things, that you can share later.

Meeting women and getting to know them is a whole different subject. Just remember that you need to enjoy more things than just cars. Sometimes dating is a good chance to try new things - nothing makes a woman smile more than giving her the chance to teach you something new. Walk in her world for a date or two and decide if you have enough interest in her and what she likes, to continue. If all you like and want is to hang out with cars and the people who own them, then your prospects for meeting other women with the same mindset, is diminished.

I complain a lot about marriage, because I'm always compromising. But having said that, married life really isn't that bad as long as you can live in her world as much as you want her in yours.

a wise man once told me that marriage should not contain compromise. it instead should be complete sacrifice. it was a very interesting perspective. i wish i saved the lecture.

i met my gf in college. she occasionally researches cars and such to impress me. but then again, i try my best not to talk about cars too much. it should be no different from us being car guys. keep the car talk for us, and the rest for your better half. thats what this forum is for!

[BonzoHansen]

My wife was a friend of a friend type of thing. She rules, let's me play with cars as long as I do stuff around the house. Like that deck I have to build.

[WildBillyT]

I could probably write a book on "Compromise" when it comes to marriage and hobbies.

The key, as with all things in life, is moderation - or finding someone who enjoys the same things that you do, without becoming obsessed with it. If she can tolerate your hobbies, and you spend enough time with her doing other things, you'll work out just fine.

I concur. When all I did was talk about and work on a project (mine or others) it became an issue. When all I did was stuff OTHER THAN work on my car it was an issue. Now we are finding the balance and things look good. The past two weekends she told me to go work on the car on Sunday and all was good, but I know that I've gotten all I can get for a little bit so I will be doing other stuff the next few weeks.

As you said- "Everything in moderation".

[The Fixer]

My wife was a friend of a friend type of thing. She rules, let's me play with cars as long as I do stuff around the house. Like that deck I have to build.

:werd: I met my wife 8 years ago; her younger sister was a student in the high school I teach at, and we met at a dinner. She was the only person my age at this function and I thought she was waaaaaaaaay outta my league, so I wasn't even trying to hit on her. But, a few days later, her sister came up to me while I was on Cafeteria Duty and gave me Nancy's number, and the rest of the story is history. :) I don't think I even mentioned I was into cars until our 2nd or third date, and she finally saw my old Monte in pieces in the auto shop at the school a few weeks later.

My wife says she hates my car, but she DID buy the '88 for my 30th Birthday a few years ago. I don't think she hates it that much. ;) There's a time and place for car stuff, and too much car talk is a bad thing. Also, don't build a motor in your garage and swap it in your driveway when your wife is 9 months pregnant with your second child; that's a BAD move (ask me how I know!). That little stunt almost cost me my car a year and a half ago. I was able to smooth things out though, and the car is still here in the garage and running great now. As long as I get stuff done around the house, I can play with my car after everything is done. And now that my son is getting older (he's almost 5) he really enjoys working outside with me on it as well, and riding to cruise nights and such in the summer.

By the way, I've made a lot of compromises to have the car; bartered/traded parts, and scored a lot of good deals to get my car where it is today. Also, I never went overboard with the budget. I was always able to provide for my family, pay my bills, and still have some spare coin to work on the car. The young car guys that spend every last cent they earn on car stuff will regret that when it comes time to buy a house or have a family (ask me how I know that one too!). Unless you make a ridiculous sum of money every year, save $$ for the future first, and spend a little on your car.

[JohnG]

thanks guys :)

[Untamed]

When you find the girl you want to marry, make sure you already own the ONE car you'll want for many years to come, because once you're married, you suddenly have other priorities for your money,and it doesn't include car stuff.

[jrsfast84]

OK ! Ready ! Buy yourself a wedding ring, women love guys who where wedding rings, they will try to make you cheat on your wife, that you don't have and ah! it works. Have Fun. JR.

[jrsfast84]

OH Yeah, Make the move to say hi ,hello or dam you look good too them. By the way i never did that. JR.

[79T/A]

Also, don't build a motor in your garage and swap it in your driveway when your wife is 9 months pregnant with your second child; that's a BAD move (ask me how I know!).

That's GREAT!!! :rofl: I can picture it now:

"MY WATER'S BREAKING!!!! WE NEED TO GO!!!!"

"Uh...well...hang on juuuust a second; I've almost got the engine lined up with the motor mounts. I'll get a bolt through there, wash my hands, and we'll get going."

I'm surprised you weren't unconscious from blunt force trauma during the birth of said second child.

Okay, seriously, I've been married for almost five years, and she knew when we got together that I'm an automotive kind of guy. As long as you can both be flexible, cars (Or any other hobby/sport/passion) can work in a serious relationship. The key for us is that out of my two days off, I get to spend one doing whatever I want to do (Work on whatever current project I've got going, shop maintenance, etc.) and the other speding time with the family. That, and not spend EVERY day before or after work wrenching.

[DrivenZ28]

as a general rule of thumb:

Imagine that whenever your GF is with her friends, she instantly starts talking about purses. And whenever she sees a nice purse she talks about it, or whenever she hears anything remotely related to purses, she has to give her opinion on it.

That's what cars are to them. Either you stop talking about them, of find one of those fabled women who actually enjoy them.

p.s if you DO find a woman who is interested in cars.. she's most likely a spy. Proceed with extreme caution.

WOW that is great analogy and makes perfect sense!:nod:

[DrivenZ28]

I met my wife way back in high school when I was driving a crappy Nissan Sentra. We never dated or anything back then, I knew I liked her, but I was going out with her friend at the time.

Years go by and we meet again, this time she was hanging out with a different ex of mine, which gave me the opportunity to talk to her. A few months later we were dating and then a few months after that we were married and then a few months after that we have a baby!

As far as the car thing goes, she tolerates it, but is somewhat a fan of nice looking cars, just has no idea about the details. When we started dating I had a 1986 Monte Carlo SS with a 383, nice car, she was too afraid to drive it though. And of course she "made" me buy my Camaro that I have today, even coughing up some of the dough to pay for it...our first big purchase together. She likes being the blonde driving a camaro with the T-Tops off.

I still get the rolling eyes and glazed over look when I talk car stiff with my friend...she just thinks they are pretty...good enough for me!

Plus it was her idea to get our Trailblazer...a chevy girl true to heart!

[firebirdcrazy]

The other day I let out to my lady she will go before the car does. You can figure out where this is going lol.

[Mike]

Maybe we can get her into your car one day.... :twisted:

yeah, probably the same day we get HIM into his car

I could probably write a book on "Compromise" when it comes to marriage and hobbies.

you think its compromise, but in her eyes shes winning every time...like the last years worth of tuesdays :)



i met my g/f at our old job and have to be nice because she comes in and reads this... :nod:
she either enjoys my interest in cars and has fun at the track or she should change her major to acting because it seems she has fun. another plus is that she enjoys the central guys and the meets with us, as well as getting along with my friends who are also all into cars......she may not be fully converted into a "car girl" yet but she will be lol.

[BonzoHansen]

http://arabist.net/hatshepsut/wp-content/uploads/2007/05/good_wife.jpg
http://www.georgehernandez.com/h/aaBlog/2004/media/04-29_GoodWifesGuide.jpg

[ShitOnWheels]

We met through...well...this site...sorta. I'm not as into cars as he is, but I don't mind watching, helping, whatever. That's what happens when you become friends with Justin and Tim I guess, lol

[nj96z28]

i recently traded my gf of 3.5 yrs in for a newer model. Kim approached me because of my car. She drives rice but i forgive her.There's nothing like trading in a '79 model for an '88 model lol. All kidding aside my ex hates cars and thinks they are to be driven and parked no questions asked, my current future ex loves american muscle cars just doesnt have the motivation for one yet. (didnt break up because of car hating btw lol)

[oh one ls1 SS]

When you find the girl you want to marry, make sure you already own the ONE car you'll want for many years to come, because once you're married, you suddenly have other priorities for your money,and it doesn't include car stuff.

that's exactly why i dont want to get married. lol im to selfish

[shane27]

**** bitches :nod:

[BigAls87Z28]

Eh, I stay away from car girls now. The last ex was a nutcase, and she was big into cars. She was/is a member on this site, and spent THOUSANDS on cars, one that was soooo overpriced. She didnt listen to me, just went right along.

My current GF I met at a local bar I go to. I went out one night, and told my friend that I dont want to go to another Bar A/Jenks/DJ's, club again. We were gunna get a drink at the local place, and thats it.
3 hours later, I walk out with a phone number. Its been almost a year, and I am really happy. She is understanding of my car stuff, and she is starting to get into them a little.
When its right, its not compromise, but its the fun times you guys have with each other. Get into eachothers hobbies, and therefor you can enjoy eachother in each persons hobby.

[Slo86Bird]

i met mine freshman year in highschool, it started as a little crush, then after getting to know her and whatnot, we are together almost 6 months now and she knows almost nothing about cars and all she likes is purses and clothes haha. i am teaching her little by little but i dont think shell ever be into them. she just thinks theyre cute if they r pink or something lol.

[bubba428]

**** bitches :nod:

either your gay or stating a goal?????

[chemicalstylez]

I can never hold a girlfriend.... i'm out of control actually... you'd think at 23 i'd start to mellow out.... constant atlantic city trips(usually at 1-4am), partying too much, pissing away money on material items, making up stories to all my ex's so i can play cards in atlantic city, lying to them so i can hang out with other girls. When did you guys mellow out and find a good woman? I'm starting to hit the age(24-29) where i should be looking for a good girl to marry, but i have zero ambition heh.

[ted gerlach]

i have a interesting story on how i met the wife not sure if anyone wants to hear it, lucky for me my wife is into nascar, only one rule in the house i can do whatever i want with the cars i want all week long as long as i am in the house when the green flag drops for the race on saturday night or sunday afternoons,
as far as the cars go many years ago, i bought a black 89 iroc convert [ she did not know about this purchase] i drove the car home with the top down in december, like 25 out was so happy i owned my first convert or i thought i did, was going to walk into the house to get the woman, not wife yet, her words on the deck as she came out to meet me was ,[ I LIKE THAT CAR , THANK YOU] you can guess the car was now hers, 2 days later i bought a white 91 rs convert from a used car lot, did not know about that car either and was told i was nutz, had here drive me to it to pick it up, did 2 things wrong, couple years later i sold the black iroc convert as well as the white 91 rs convert, i did buy back the white convert 3 months ago hit not to bad, but before that she would talk about that car all the time, the one car i should have never sold was a 92 heritage camaro, she did like the heritage z-28 i had it was red with the black strypes, so i found a red 91 z-28 convert that needs work lots of work i bought a camaro convert as a parts car, i am going to have the car repainted red and put the black strypes on it, even was told i could miss the nascar races to get it fixed up for the summer time, going to start working on it today, want to try and get it running, anyone want pic's

[Knipps]

of course we want pics ted :lol:

[shane27]

either your gay or stating a goal????? neither

[DrivenZ28]

I can never hold a girlfriend.... i'm out of control actually... you'd think at 23 i'd start to mellow out.... constant atlantic city trips(usually at 1-4am), partying too much, pissing away money on material items, making up stories to all my ex's so i can play cards in atlantic city, lying to them so i can hang out with other girls. When did you guys mellow out and find a good woman? I'm starting to hit the age(24-29) where i should be looking for a good girl to marry, but i have zero ambition heh.


I was the same way.and I would have stayed that way too because man it was so much fun, but it changed when I met THE girl for me. I was 26. It all just clicked for me.

[Rich189]

I wouldnt say my girl is a car nut but she does like them quite a bit and actually wants a 3rd gen or 4th gen formula. But we've been friends for about 5 years and going out for almost 3 now so she knew about the car thing before dating me

[r0nin89]

If theres ones thing that I've learned after just breaking up with my girlfriend of 6months is that shared interests can actually hurt a relationship sometimes. It only happened a couple weeks ago but I'm slowly realising its for the better (even though I broke up with her).

For a long time I let our compatibility of shared interests like cars, music, etc blur my view on who she actually was and how we worked together. I found myself saying in so many words "I forgave her for that because she likes slayer too, where am I gonna find another girl that likes slayer?"

[79CamaroDiva]

Since my other half is on the couch watching barrett jackson, ill answer it.. we met two years ago through this site, although al says we actually met almost 2 1/2 years ago at atco :lol: but neither of us really remember.. We've been together for about a year, and we share something thats not just an interest in cars, but a psychotic obsession.. i don't think he could find another woman that would go to texas and back in 4 days to tow a car back, or vermont in a blizzard to pick up a truck, and i dont know if i could find another man to tolerate having a girlfriend with a faster car than him, or a propensity for breaking parts quite like i do ;)

car girls are out there, we're not a myth, and we're not spys.. and a lot of girls can at least be converted to enjoy them, so long as they know (or think they know) that the car has its place below them on the totem pole.. any relationship is definitely about compromise and understanding.. we've never faught, there have been problems, but they've been talked about until they were resolved, and the absolute best thing you can do is never lose your cool.. talking things out goes a lot further than yelling and screaming and pointing fingers.

[Savage_Messiah]

Scott... that may just be the best thing evar on teh intarwebs.

[chemicalstylez]

I was the same way.and I would have stayed that way too because man it was so much fun, but it changed when I met THE girl for me. I was 26. It all just clicked for me.

Good so I won't be an insane partier my whole life haha.

[89CamaroRS]

I can never hold a girlfriend.... i'm out of control actually... you'd think at 23 i'd start to mellow out.... constant atlantic city trips(usually at 1-4am), partying too much, pissing away money on material items, making up stories to all my ex's so i can play cards in atlantic city, lying to them so i can hang out with other girls. When did you guys mellow out and find a good woman? I'm starting to hit the age(24-29) where i should be looking for a good girl to marry, but i have zero ambition heh.

yo dude, i am exactly the same way just sub AC for philly bars, concerts and shooting ranges. I'm gonna be 23 in 6 days and have been wondering the same thing. When, if ever, will that perfect girl show up and calm me down?

i just broke up with a gf of 2 years last week who i thought might have been that one but i couldn't have been more wrong(not that i broke up with her because of it but she gave me a really hard time about spending time wrenching on the camaro). now i'm back to square one and it's kinda frustrating.

I do know for a fact that there are car girls out there, i know several of them. unfortunately none of the ones i know are dating material. it would be a rare thing to find THE right one who also shares the automotive interest. the odds just just stacked against us.

[Tru2Chevy]

i just broke up with a gf of 2 years last week who i thought might have been that one but i couldn't have been more wrong(not that i broke up with her because of it but she gave me a really hard time about spending time wrenching on the camaro). now i'm back to square one and it's kinda frustrating.

I call :bs: ....you are far from square one.

- Justin

[89CamaroRS]

I call :bs: ....you are far from square one.

- Justin

yes i am, lol. keefe was the first square (save genie), lol.

[shane27]

where am I gonna find another girl that likes slayer?"
:shrug: maybe a slayer concert?

[shane27]

I can never hold a girlfriend.... i'm out of control actually... you'd think at 23 i'd start to mellow out.... constant atlantic city trips(usually at 1-4am), partying too much, pissing away money on material items, making up stories to all my ex's so i can play cards in atlantic city, lying to them so i can hang out with other girls. When did you guys mellow out and find a good woman? I'm starting to hit the age(24-29) where i should be looking for a good girl to marry, but i have zero ambition heh. don't go by everyone else man. your still young like me. noone says you have to get married in your 20s. many people do and i feel bad for about 90 percent of them. if you want to keep the pleasure of doing what( or who :nod:) you want, then wait to get a gf/wife. i say...enjoy the 20s, get married when your 30...if you get married at all. everyone wants to get married quick...why everyone is in such a rush is beyond me :shrug:

[DaSkinnyGuy]

Ted after meeting your wife she seems to be the easiest women thats out there. But after reading what you wrote we still dont know how you 2 meet. Just that nascars go in circles and she likes 3rd gen verts that have stripes. :wink:

[WildBillyT]

Ted after meeting your wife she seems to be the easiest women thats out there.

Ted, are you going to take that crap from him? :rofl:

[Knipps]

Ted, are you going to take that crap from him? :rofl:

:rofl: i was thinking the same thing

[Untamed]

He probably meant "easy going" but was definately funny!

What gets me is all you young guys keep complaining about not finding a girl, when all you want to do is wrench on the car....

Uh, duh?

Get out from under the damn car, figure out what your priorities are, then decide whether you'll spend more time being social (outside of the car clubs / guys hanging out) or whether you don't want all the challenges that go along with dating. You -can- have it both ways, but its rare. You're better of realizing now that your hobby will (or at least should) take a back seat to any relationship you have.

[WildBillyT]

You're better of realizing now that your hobby will (or at least should) take a back seat to any relationship you have.

Yeah, or someday she might be driving off in the car you were working on, with it loaded down with half of your stuff. :shock:

[BonzoHansen]

But don't put it too far back. You should never give up who you are, and you should never ask someone else to give up who they are. There is definite give & take.

[Untamed]

But don't put it too far back. You should never give up who you are, and you should never ask someone else to give up who they are. There is definite give & take.

That's true. And make sure she understands that -before- you get married.

[BigAls87Z28]

Watched a good movie over the weekend with my gf. She had passed out within the first 5 mins, so I kinda just sat there and watched it. It was about a handful of couples one London afternoon, and they each had thier own problems. The one guy meets with his gf, and says "do you know why I like you? Its cause you dont try to change me."
I looked at my gf, and realized what every other girl I have ever dated has tried to do. Not that Im a bad guy or do bad things, but they try to mold you into something they want, when they fell for you for being the person you are. Ill never understand that whole thing with women.

[ar0ck]

Watched a good movie over the weekend with my gf. She had passed out within the first 5 mins, so I kinda just sat there and watched it. It was about a handful of couples one London afternoon, and they each had thier own problems. The one guy meets with his gf, and says "do you know why I like you? Its cause you dont try to change me."

Love Actually, good movie to watch with the ladies.

[BigAls87Z28]

Nah, that wasnt it, but it seems to be the same type of idea.

Found it...Scenes of a Sexual Nature

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0475380/

Ewen McGregor plays a gay guy, I was very upset to see Obi Won kiss a dude...

[BonzoHansen]

Nah, that wasnt it, but it seems to be the same type of idea.

Found it...Scenes of a Sexual Nature

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0475380/

Ewen McGregor plays a gay guy, I was very upset to see Obi Won kiss a dude...

Pffftt. Sir Alec Guiness would never do that! :lol:

[foff667]

Work, met my wife at my first real job.