The worlds a crappy place...
 

This all starts back to november, me and my girlfriend are on a forced break up. She starts spiraling downward, and at 16 1/2 she becomes an alky.. She trys to get booze any way she can, and she got date raped two times, The second time it happened I swear I flip out, and try to do everything I can, she refuses the help, I learned that the reason she drinks in the first place is because its the only way she felt better :-? I figure, screw forced break up and if its gonna stop her from all this stuff, its worth it so i went back out with her, and In like a month we broke up like 12 times cause of her being all weird.. now shes hanging out with the dirt bags that I used to hang out with when I was a dirt bag and I warned her of what was to come, It finally came, and here I am upset over it, As Im talking to my freinds about this, her cousin blurts out, that when she was raped she didnt report it, and understands why my ex didnt... WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE? Whats wrong with me? How do I get over this girl!?

plz help nothing is working.

shes a dumb bitch and youre a cool dude. leave her POS ass and f*ckin move on bro. people dont need this stupid drama *********, especially a youngster like yourself. do friends with benefits, you get what you want, (we all know what we want from a girl) and you dont have to worry about the BS.

Over the past few days I've been finding myself learning the same lesson you gotta learn.... she's obviously NOT the person you cared about. You've tried to help, and she just refused it? Same here. I ain't getting into my whole sob story but you gotta move on. Not saying it's easy, not saying it's anywhere NEAR easy, but rarely is anything that's worth it something easy.

Rape is really traumatic and you never know how someone will react. She may have just wanted to repress it. If she is refusing your help their isn't much you can do, but I can relate to you still wanting to help and caring about her, even if she isn't the same person. All I can say is don't let that embitter you but at the same time, don't let it dig into you and get you down.

burn your bridges and dont look back. you offered help and she didnt want it. no use getting yourself all worked up over something you cant control.

if you are her friend, do whatever you can to help her. i wouldn't suggesst dating someone with problems like that, but ignoring her isn't a solution either.
you can never force people to admit to or correct addictions, that is something they have to come to in their own time. wht you can do to help them and try to accelerate the process of her realizing she needs and accepting help is to stay invovled and be around to offer alternate things to do instead of hanging with the scum bags and boozin.
don't make her problems the biggest priority in your life, but be aware that you can help in the litle ways that help lead people back from the brink of their own destruction.
i have been there with friends before, it is tough, but you can't let it consume you. the greatest lesson you can take from it at your age is that drinking is not a big deal, excessive drinking is.

girls are dumb. they dont know what they want. the best way to get over a girl is find another one. you may think you wont find someone as good as her or whatever...but your wrong.

plenty o' fish in the sea mate.

Yeah, I was put into that same hole. My one ex, who was the first I really loved, we were great but she became wierd, and started hanging out wiht some trash. She never smoked pot before but she for soem reason decided to one day with these people. well a few months downt he line, she got drunk and fooledaroudn with my bestfriend, and then a couple weeks later slept wiht some guy, some football star of her school. I took her back and in the middle ofthe summer she slept wiht my best friend whom she fooled around with back in january. well she went off to college and has become the village whore. shes slept with more then half ofa fraternity in her college, and gets drunk every night, why i dont know but it hurt so much to hear what she had become, this innocent girl turned into a whore. well last month i lost another person who i cared about alot. She says she doesnt know what she wants to do with her life so decides to just walk away from me so she could go out party, adn see other guys, I hate love, it hurts so much. dude Ive been in your shoes a few times, and it will hurt, but the bestthing you can do is get together with your friends, and try to havea good time. it helped me so much thru this last break up, I mean god the first break up that I had when I lost the one who went to college, it took me almost 9 months to get over her because I chose to stay seldom to myself instead of being around others, its hard.

damn what are these kids getting themselves into theses days!

the right girl wont cause you any problems, its as simple as that. ive given up on a few and those that know me know the crap i put up with. But you know what... I"M doing fine. thats the only one who matters, especially when you are young. Even being friends with a person who couldnt care less doesnt work. Theres a point where you just have to turn and walk away, dont let them drag you down or mess with your head, its rough but no matter what, you'll live to see another day regardless of drama the day before.

well spoken words bro

Jeff, we kinda have more in common than we realized

AMEN!!! Back in 1999, the girl I had been dating for 6 years, and planning to get engaged to, tells me at my brother's wedding that we need to take some time off. Turns out she was cheating on me with her best friend's older sister's husband! She was 22, he was 37! I went into massive depression, lost a bunch of weight, but my good friends pulled me through it and just six months after that whole disaster I met my wife. That breakup wound up being the best thing that ever happened to me. Matt, just stay strong, put her in the past, and you will pull right through this! Keep yer chin up!

I like chocolate pudding pie and vanilla pudding pie with graham cracker crust

Cherry or blueberry cobbler with whipped cream ftw. back to the topic lol

just keep moving on with your life, keep yourself occupied with things like your car or hanging out friends. The more things you do, the less you will think about her..

The thing that got me thru my stuff the most, and also made me not think about it the most, was workign on the camaro, thus y I got all that stuff done to my car, I just kept buying crap for it to keep my mind occupied. It was like crack at one point and time, I needed my fix and waited at the door for the UPS/FedEx guy to get here wiht my stuff lol.

I havent thought about it since I made this post till now, But I cant just go chill with my friends, all of my friends are where her friends before they even met me. I stated that she was telling me she was going to do somethings with a dirtbag, well that dirtbag was my friend till I went to high school, then i met this chick and all her friends, I can think of 2 people im cool with and can hang out with that arent her friend.

all this crap makes me tired, Im goin to bed. thanks for the help

Dump the chick and concentrate on the car. Don't look back. Surround yourself with people that make you a better person, not people that will hold you back. Offer support if you have to but distance yourself.

When you get a bit older, you'll be amazed at how many of the people you grew up with fall off your radar.

Same here, I lost almost all of my friends from my first ex. Its sad to see that peopel you once trusted and did stuff for can easy push you away. I spent soo much time and money on my friends, and they shunned me away after we broke up like I was a bad guy. Good guys always finish last, remember that. The worst kind of relationsip you can get into is one that all your friends know, cause things can go wrong, real quick, but its hard for me to pick up girls outside of my friends, hewll all the girls ive gone out wiht since i got out of highschool was thru friends so, its hard for me, but I hear ya man, as much as you dont want to, just try to go out, youll feel better when you do, trust me.

:nod: Quoted for truth.

you are not me and never will be


but yeah dude...dont waste your time on her. find another girl, youll get over it shortly.

have a stroke!!

Yup, I hate to accept that fact, but it does happen.