[jims69camaro]

my wife and i were recently married and my dad invited us to a BBQ. i told him that she was working that day, would get off at 3:00 and we would be there by 4:30. i told him the exact time we would be there. we rolled up at 4:25. went around back of the house where the BBQ was being held, introductions all around since he had some people there that i didn't know. ok, so that's done, we've got drinks in hand and i ask where's the food. his girlfriend says she put everything away except for some fruit salad. i reacted as politely as i could, stayed about 15 minutes and then we left. understand, i went out of my way to travel from toms river to burlington only to have fruit salad? we stopped at a wawa and got some grub on the way home. that was the last time i've seen my dad. some might think i overreacted, but plans were made, times were stated - and there was only fruit salad when we got there. there is an underlying current, too - my dad's a racist and i married a latina. he never said anything out loud about her, other than her ability to speak english - giving the excuse that she couldn't speak english as to why he didn't talk to her. so there are probably other reasons brewing just underneath as to why we don't talk anymore - but the straw that broke my back was the BBQ.