Father's Day...

[Firebird67dude]

just went down the crapper. I just had a nice hour long discussion on my part and a screaming match on my parents' part about my meeting on
Monday and the possible 100% ship out date being August 27th. Apperently my step ops and mom are highly against my decision and are completely appauled by MY choice to enlist and take the road that I am taking. My mom says that I will become one of two possible people when all said and done. The one is a 25 yr old with no legs and I'll be complete alcoholic and at the bar 24/7 or a robot with no feelings and I will not be the perosn that she has known for the past 21 years. She said she is completely fine with the idea of my throwing the past 3 years of schooling out thw window since I will no be able to do what I want right after I finish school.

Then My step pops starts. Well you know your saving up to do all this work to the Trans Am yet you know once you leave boot camp and the ball finally gets rolling I will come back and not be able to drive the car because I will either be dead or have no legss or missing half of some limb. Then he went on to saying that I am completely irresponsible for doing this and not letting them know the 6 mnths prior while I was researching it and talking to my recruiter.

My mom starts again, screaming not looking at me saying that I should just settle wiht the dig holes putting up fences for the next 6 yrs and wait for my 17 points to go away and then see what happens. Very nice huh? Then she went on saying that when my grandmother finds out and has a heart attack and dies it will be completely my fault and that she will never forgive me for it.
And that it will destory HER family and that she wishes she could be behind her children with all their decisions but she is not backing me up on this and that she will never talk to me again. Then she stopped talkign and hasnt talked to me in the past 3 hours.

So right now Im in a horrible mood and it seems my parents hate me and every bad thing that happens to my family form this point on is my fault and a whole bunch of other bull crap so basicly if anyone is in the area and can pick me up and if I could stay anywhere aslong as it isnt my house until August 27th would be greatly appreciated.


Tim

[BonzoHansen]

Sucks, sounds very tough. But I would consider their point fo view. Their son is joining the military in a time of war, where last month reportedly had very high casualties, and that must freak them out. That might make more sense when you have kids someday.

It will all work out in the end. My only $.02 is to watch what you say & do. Arguing won't help at this point, what is done is done, and you don't want to say or do anything that can't be rolled back. Life is long, within reason things heal. All you can do is try hard, do good and prove them wrong.

Good luck.

[armymp1983]

I wish you the best of luck. It takes a good man to step up and serve his country at a time of war. I will be re-enlisting end of august as well. ( US ARMY) I will probably do 14 more years and retire. It takes courage to do what's right even though you may not come back alive. It's one of the seven Army Values, Personal Courage. Best of luck.

[Firebird67dude]

All she is doing is making me want to change my date to ASAP.

[Tsar]

do what YOU want, i think its time to cut some people off..

[bubba428]

Honestly I'd rather join durring war that peace time.....but maybe I'm just sadistic like that

[unstable bob gable]

It takes a REAL MAN to do what yer doing broh, and I can't really offer any help as far as your family goes. But just remember, YOU ARE A HERO in the eyes of many people, including this 'ol USAF man!

[baddest434]

being a parent i can see your parents point of view. their very scared of the possibilities that could happen. i would feel the same way as your parents if it was my son but i would also be proud that you were man enough to defend your country. your rents need to let go and let you become a man on your own the way you choose. and joining the military at this time takes a MAN. personally i could never have done it. so thanks go out to all the people that are like you. best luck

[bubba428]

Originally Posted by unstable bob gable

It takes a REAL MAN to do what yer doing broh, and I can't really offer any help as far as your family goes. But just remember, YOU ARE A HERO in the eyes of many people, including this 'ol USAF man!

I totaly agree, I was going to go in right after HS last year...but I'm to fat and lazy...It takes alot to be a soldier, and if you got it...good for you man. Best of luck.

[Firebird67dude]

Originally Posted by bubba428

Honestly I'd rather join durring war that peace time.....but maybe I'm just sadistic like that

Then get going there buddy. You could get a nice sign on bonus.

[bubba428]

dude...I'm in no physical shape...I can bearly jog a 1/2 mile with out being completly winded lol. I'm not like uber obese but losing the weight and geting in shape would be harded than BT for me lol...I may tho, I've been throwing aound the idea of being a weapons specialist. I have my...ummm yea...set up to the point, ya know, I'mma just leave it at that.

[Untamed]

Time can heal all wounds, as long as you don't do anything to widen the wound. Honestly, instead of running from your parents while you are upset, stick around and do what you have to do on a day to day basis. Be there to talk to them. Answer questions when they ask. Explain the reasons why you chose what you did, and demonstrate to them that you understand you have a future when you return. The military can open many doors in the civilian world.

Enjoy your time at home, no matter how awkward it may be right now. Because before, during and after training you will be htinking of home. When you are in another country, sitting around at night waiting for your patrol to start, you'll be thinking of home. DO NOT leave home with dark thoughts. Should the worst come to happen, make sure they saw you leaving with a smile and a hug. So.. very.... important... to you and your parents.

Good luck man, and thanks for stepping up.

Been there, done that.

[Firebird67dude]

I tried to talk to them and explain all that you just said. My mother does not care. All she kept saying was that shes upset with me and that I have let her down in the worst possible way.

I wish I could afford to move out. I'b be out tomorrow.

[qwikz28]

its different for a parent i guess. hang in there buddy. let me know if you need anything.

[Firebird67dude]

I need friends that realize that I am car-less and want to get the F**K out of my house for awhile tonight.

[trashman01]

let them hate u, cuz when u come home on leave it be a whole new parents. gettin limbs blown off eh? my cuzin alicia is in the navy, stationed in Guam. they dont have worry till u get like stationed in iraq or something. just remember tho ur step pops think hes a man but when u come back u will be a better man.

[Ian]

its one thing to not beleive in the war, its another thing to not believe in the troops.

I have nothing but the ut most respect for you Tim, you're doing a very brave and honorable thing. I cant imagine what it would be like to have someone who you love so much as your parents telling you things like that. just hang in there and do what you want to do. This is NOT their life, it is yours.

[Teds89IROC]

I agree with pretty much everyone here. It's your life, but you need to realize what it's like to be your parents. Don't run away from them and go hide somewhere till august 27, stick around. Put yourself in their shoes and watch what you say and how you act.

[Knipps]

Originally Posted by Ian

its one thing to not beleive in the war, its another thing to not believe in the troops.

I have nothing but the ut most respect for you Tim, you're doing a very brave and honorable thing. I cant imagine what it would be like to have someone who you love so much as your parents telling you things like that. just hang in there and do what you want to do. This is NOT their life, it is yours.

well said.

[shane27]

Don't listen to your rents. their unsupportive and negitive...you dont need that ******** before you go and protect their asses in war. i cant believe theres people like that in our country, oh wait yes i can.

[Savage_Messiah]

Try to salvage what you can.... don't just turn your back and leave man. While it may feel like the best or only thing to do now, chances are you'd end up regretting it at some point down the road.

Originally Posted by shane27

Don't listen to your rents. their unsupportive and negitive...you dont need that ******** before you go and protect their asses in war. i cant believe theres people like that in our country, oh wait yes i can.

No, it's just probably the closest that they've felt the mortality of their son be so possibly near. There are more possibilities but if I were to go into them it would be for Tim to see only.

Tim, thanks. Be safe over there.

[Squirrel]

V is right, grab your balls and tell them youre going

[WildBillyT]

People fear what they do not understand.

- Bruce Lee

[Firebird67dude]

Wow, this blew up while I was sleeping. MY meeting is in an hour. I find out everything today. So that means my mom will be either realy mad or completely livid.

[BonzoHansen]

Good luck. You made a tough decision. Just take the high road with your parents, it will be better in the end.